7 things I wish I’d known in my 20s

Life means always learning. They do say change is the only constant in life, except death, and it’s up to each one of us to look at this given thing in a dreading way or consider it an opportunity. You can change and grow, learn, and always become a better version of yourself, or you can just react to what’s happening around, complain, and keep doing things the way you always did. And then wondering why nothing good ever happens to you.

Life has a way of making you face new situations, people, and life experiences all the time. Out of each, you can learn something, give something, and add a small change to who you are. And why not, impact a little bit the world around you through the people you influence, help, or interact with.

Since birth, our learning path is continuous, growing is an integral part of each one’s life. After childhood, though, and especially when we mature, this process should become a conscious exercise as much as possible. Direct our learning in the direction that’s important to us, look out for the right opportunities and so on.

Reflecting on my 20’s, but really, on my life so far, I realize I wish I have learned some more things sooner. I don’t have regrets, but I can only think about how my life would look now if only I were braver earlier on.

Do you have such things you’d wish you had known when you were (a tad) younger?

(1) Having a purpose

I’ve been waking up at 6 am every morning for almost four years now. Sometimes, it is difficult, but having a goal in mind and the right motivation, you can get out of the bed when the alarm sets-off. Make a coffee, enjoy the silence, and start building.

(2) Intentional learning

Getting to where you want invariably means having to learn and be better at certain things. And the process can be sometimes painful, not comfortable, or only incredibly tricky. But, as long as you are intentional about the “why,” you can actually learn everything faster. While having fun and enjoying the way there.

(3) Surround yourself with the right people

First, know who the right people are for the kind of life you want to have. The people that can understand, support, and challenge you towards your dreams and goals. Make time for them, while removing the ones that feel like a constant drag of your energy.

(4) Invest in healthy habits

Exercise. Eat as little sugar as possible (or none). Sleep. The list can continue, but these three things are the best starting point you can have. They not only help you live healthily and have more energy, but they also contribute to building a needed discipline to succeed.

(5) Give

Start and give to the rest of the world, so you make room to receive. Give your old clothes, give your time, share your thoughts through writing. Give, you never know who’s the one needing to hear what you’re saying.

(6) Never cease to explore

New hobbies, new opportunities, new life paths. It’s the only way to find your purpose if you don’t have one yet. On the way, you’ll define yourself, your values, and your dreams. Explore the world, its people, cultures, books; but also your mind and everything that you can do.

(7) Accept both happy and sad

Happiness is overrated. You don’t need to be satisfied or ok all the times, you don’t need to be right all the times. It’s ok to be you. Sad sometimes, introvert, less talkative and reflective. It’s ok to prefer to read a book than spends time with people. Accept yourself for who you are and accept your struggles to become who you want to become. Life’s hard no matter what, don’t make it even harder for yourself by overthinking and comparing your journey with what you believe other’s journeys are (more exciting, happier, or so glamorous).

Life in itself is a lesson. As Steve Jobs said, “stay hungry, stay foolish.” You’re on your path to becoming who you want (or need) to become, and the only things to add if they’re not yet on your list are a bit of intention, a pinch of acceptance and the energy to keep it all going!

Article originally published here.